On Cheating

People are a lot of things. Liars, killers, thieves and so on. People can also be well-read, intelligent, considerate. Each thing a person is will either make you respect them more, or respect them less. Of everything a person is, something that will make me respect them is if they read. And I will lose all respect for a person if they cheat.

Cheating can take various forms. You can cheat on things.

Your taxes, your job. Sports. There are so many things you can cheat on. If it in anyway involves lies, deceit, betrayal, you are most probably cheating.

 “sometimes it's okay to cheat on things - but don't ever cheat on people. because once you start, it's very hard to stop. you find out how easy it is to do.”
David Levithan, Will Grayson, Will Grayson

Friendship.
Let's say that A and B are best friends. Slowly, A starts ignoring B, and instead starts hanging out with C. For some reason, A feels the need to lie to B about his friendship with C. B goes on thinking he is A's best friend, when A and C are now best friends.
So A is cheating on B, because he is lying about his friendship with C and the turn his friendship with B has taken.

Relationships.
A bit tricky, since people like to classify the kind of relationship they are in. Casual, seeing where things are going, dating, steady, quite serious, you-smile-with-him-and-I-will-kill-you, we-are-getting-married-someday to 'soul mates.' There are so many kinds of relationships you can be in. Which people use as an excuse to cheat. "Oh we were just going out, so it was okay to cheat."
A relationship isn't something light, there are feelings involved. When you tell someone you like them, you are making a commitment, no matter how light this commitment is. If you lose interest in that person, tell them and then move on to someone else. Do not ever assume or expect the other to understand when you even make out with someone else, while still seeing the other person.

Marriage.
If you are married, anything from fooling around to doing the deed is cheating. Simple as that. This is why it's important to keep your distance from married people. You could be really close friends, but when someone gets married take a step or two back. Here's the thing; we have little control of our feelings. And the physical distance between two people adds to those feelings. There can be chemistry between two people, even if one of those people is married. And when you tend to always hang out together, your feelings may go beyond mere friendship. You can try to convince your self that you don't feel anything beyond that, but chances are, you do. Especially if you have to tell your self, "no! You only like him as a friend."

As my grandmother always tell me, never share your personal problems with a man (well, basically someone of the opposite sex) especially if he is married or you are married. When you share your personal problems, there's this sense of attachment but also dependence. You complain about your spouse, he advices you. Slowly you will see him as the person you wish your spouse is. Unlike ending a relationship, ending a marriage is more stressful. And when a marriage goes down, it affects so many people. The husband and wife, their kids, if they have any, the two families, friends and so on.

Don't cheat. Simple as that. Don't be the reason a person cheats on another. Don't be the one another cheats with. Ask someone who has been cheated on, what it's like to have been lied to, have been betrayed. You won't like the answer.

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