What makes a woman a lady?


What makes a woman a lady?

What with the lack of ladies, I’ve started to list out things that make a woman a lady. Those short and tight dresses that leave very little for one’s imagination certainly doesn’t make a woman a lady. Of course it makes her something else, but I’m not going to comment on that. Cursing is also not very ladylike, nor is sarcasm. Language doesn’t make a woman a lady. Just because you can’t speak English doesn’t mean you are just a woman. Yet, how you speak what ever language you use can make you at least seem like a lady.

Since facebook and instagram make models out of nearly everyone, there are more and more photographs being uploaded. While the poses only confuse your mind, (I mean, how do they manage to do all that while wearing the highest of all heals and a dress that will blow away at the slightest breeze?) the ‘models’ feel no shame at all to expose what little they have to the entire world.

A profile picture of a girl that left very little covered got over hundred ‘likes.’ What were these people, men and women, liking? The picture was not exceptionally good; a monkey with a camera could have taken it! Her dress wasn’t something I would wear in my worst nightmare. And yet, those likes! What they liked was her seductive pose and look, and her body while not impressive was mostly uncovered. And so all the men and for a reason I’m still to understand, women liked her picture, commented on it and most probably did a lot of unspeakable things with it.

Clinging on to every man you see also doesn’t make you a lady. Embarrassing your self trying to get the attention of a man, who most probably has a cabbage in stead of a brain, doesn’t make you a lady. In fact, it makes other females want to drive a pitchfork through your head!

Being a lady shouldn’t be a female’s one goal in life. And yet, behaving like one wouldn’t hurt. So keep your legs together, sit nicely and stop embarrassing us, females!

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