Forever Alones on Valentines Day



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Valentines’ Day is now of the past and you may no longer be suffocated by stories of gifts, cards, candy, chocolate and dates. You can now breathe because all your friends who are in relationships are also now tired of talking about just how cute their gifts were. The status updates and tweets about Valentines’ Day are safely buried under more important matters. However, happiness is still not yours if you are yet to meet your Valentines’ Day celebrating friends since Friday was a holiday.

Now there are those who celebrate February 14, and there are those who don’t. The latter consists of those who believe that one shouldn’t celebrate love just once a year, and also those who are labeled as ‘Forever Alones.’ Forever Alone is a title given to one who has been single for a very long time, and who could safely look forward to a future with no special someone. Of course, it’s a label that is used in a funny manner, although it could also be used as an insult.

When Valentines’ Day is just around the corner, Forever Alones go into hiding. They avoid people because of the pressure society puts on them. ‘How is it that someone like you is still single?’ or ‘don’t lie to me, who was your Valentine?’ and you keep telling them that you aren’t hiding your amazing love life from them, but they just don’t believe you. Then they start pitying you. It’s almost as if not being in a relationship is a curse. As if your happily ever after can only be achieved by finding someone to share your happily ever after with. This makes Forever Alones have low self-esteem and doubt themselves.

Of course, no Forever Alone will ever admit he/she hates his/her single status. They would laugh it off and say they are happy being single. And the perks are many. You can enjoy all the eye candy without feeling guilty, you have more freedom, and you save a whole lot by not making so many phone calls or sending so many messages.

However, when Valentines’ Day rolls around, once a year, Forever Alones are reminded that they are alone. While their friends get gifts and cards and are asked out on dates, you end up staying at home, snacking on potato chips, watching whatever is on TV. And due to how considerate they are, TV channels only broadcast romance movies on Valentines’ Day. Thus Forever Alones are given a gentle reminder that while the likes of Ugly Betty can also go on dates, they are home alone, waiting, in vain, for their Prince Charming to knock on the door.


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